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How To Sparkle

Big Sparkly Life — Tue, 08 Nov 2011 16:01:30 +0000

Photo by Aubry Aragon

How to Sparkle

Step 1. Figure out what you love
Step 2. Engage in that often.

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Step 1. Figure out how to love what you are already doing.
Step 2. Engage in that often.

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Step 1. Play, often.

Sparkle comes from enjoyment. From pleasure. From love. All resonating and dancing inside of you. You have to create the time. The space. The energy to recognize what feels good. That may seem easy to the folks who are already are in touch with their natural enthusiasm. For others, it’s stretch. But one that is worth it.

Make it a game. Begin by spending 10 minutes a day just noticing, what feels good, what feels crappy. Notice why something feels better than others. Sometimes the crappy thing only feels that way because of a story we are telling ourselves. Other times, it’s because it just kind of stinks. The act of paying attention will allow your sparkle to unveil itself to you.

Sometimes we can tweak the story. Work doesn’t have to be a maddening grind. It can be a means to an amazing end. It can be a chance to be of service. Maybe it’s were you pretend to be a super secret agent saving the world from your co-workers.

Sometimes it’s time to change your story all together. To clear out the yuck and embrace the delicious yum. You can let go of what no longer serves you and create a more delight in your life. Maybe that means radical changes…but more often then not, it is time to incorporate a little something, something here and there. Look at what lights you up. And begin to do that. More and more and more.

What Do You Do?

Big Sparkly Life — Mon, 31 Oct 2011 17:48:38 +0000

Photo by Krikit ♥

What do you do? Not necessarily what your job title is. Or how you bring home the bacon? But what do you do? What do you do without even trying? What is that thing that people come to you for time after time, regardless if it is your job or not?

When someone asks what I do, I tell them, “I help people fall in love with their lives.” That is the essence of it. It goes beyond my coaching practice. My healing work. My writing. All of those are a part of it. But it is more than just what I do for others. It is part of my life. My work with myself. I help myself fall in love with my life. I am not immune to the work I do. It is a process I value in all areas of my life…wether I am being of service to the world or just to myself.

So, what is it for you? What is it that propels you into the work that you do, or that you want to do? Look at it closely for a moment. What is the continuous end result of your movement in this world. Do you light up people’s life? Perhaps you are an illuminator? Do you inspire? Perhaps you are a muse or a creative diva? Let the words come to you. Own them. Let it be fun. Silly. And totally you.

What is it that you do?

Where did you leave yourself?

Big Sparkly Life — Tue, 25 Oct 2011 19:29:58 +0000

photo by Horia Varlan

Do you remember where you left yourself? Not your whole self…just little bits and pieces. Sometimes they get lost along the way. Left at a job. In the pile of bills and laundry. In your lunch box. Sometimes they get stuck in time. Back in a memory. Back in a traumatic moment. Back when you wished you had done something different. Just back…

Tiny fragments of you may get scattered along your way. Like pebbles. Or breadcrumbs. You may not even realize at first. A small shard is hardly missed, when you are as grand and luxurious as you are. Yet, after time, you may notice that you are dwelling on things that no longer really matter to you today. You may find that your mind is all over the map. That you are tired and restless. Those may be symptoms of your Self searching for it’s misplaced morsels.

The time has come for you to collect yourself. To call yourself home. To go to those places that your mind had anchored into and free those pieces of you. Sometimes it takes intention. Sometimes action. Sometimes healing the parts that have been in pain. It almost always takes love.

Each time a part of you returns to the whole, you are rejuvenated. Greater peace is available. Greater everything. As you are stronger. Fuller. More at home than ever before. Don’t worry about why, simply put your energy into the return. Concentrate on enjoying the bounty of who you are. Draw yourself back home.

The Power of a Smile

Big Sparkly Life — Fri, 21 Oct 2011 18:23:11 +0000

Photo by LawPrieR

Smile. When you are out in the world. When you look someone on the eye. When you glimpse yourself in a mirror. Smile. Your smile is an indicator of your love. Your light. Your general awesomeness. And every time you flash it, you share all of that. And more. You connect. In an instant. With yourself. With the person you are smiling at. With the whole darn world.

I make a choice when I am out and about (or in and chillin’) to find the authentic smiley place inside of me. And let that sucker cross across my face. It feels good to do. It feels empowering to know that I can so easily choose into this beautiful and gentle power. Not to mention it other people seem to love it!

I get comments all of the time…”You always have a smile on your face” or “You always so happy.” The person who says this suddenly has a smile too. They tapped into their own happy place…all because of a slight upward turn of the lips. That is pretty damn awesome.

My intention is for my smile to be authentic. I’m not trying to pretend away feelings that are too uncomfortable to feel. If I can’t touch that genuine energy inside of me that makes me happy, then so be it. But often, no matter what is going on, I can find the love. The joy. The beautiful state of happy. It makes a difference in my life. And it just might make a difference in yours.

Awash in Love

Big Sparkly Life — Tue, 18 Oct 2011 16:38:22 +0000

Photo by EpSos.de

The words are not coming today. But the love is.

So in lieu of written connection and inspiration, I shower you with love. With light. I send it right from my heart to yours…knowing that it will be received.

Take a deep breath and know that in this moment, that you…just as you are…are loved. By me. By the Universe.

Waves of bountiful love come rushing to you. Washing over you. Tickling your fancy. Strengthening your heart. Delighting your being. Feel the love. Allow it in. Radiate from the core of your being so that all can see the magnificence of who you truly are. Then pass it on…inspiring others to shine as brightly as you.

Deserve/Permission/Release

Big Sparkly Life — Thu, 13 Oct 2011 15:40:37 +0000

What you deserve: Laughter. Joy. Opportunities. Kindness. Lots of money. Love. Romance. Positive touch. Dreams come true. Health. Yummy food. Safe surroundings. Pleasure. Treasures. Sweetness. Orgasms. People who love you. Spiritual connection. Emotional releases. Days off. Intellectual stimulation. Attention. Affection. Creative expression. Amazing energy. Grace. Healing. Abundance. Inspiration. Great friends. A supportive community. Beauty. Your beloved. To feel amazing. Commitment. Peace. Freedom of expression. People to share yourself with. Alone time. Silliness. Stillness. A marvelous support system. Your heart’s desires.

What you have permission to do: Be well rested. Express your anger. To mess up. To fail. To succeed beyond your wildest dreams. To not give it 100%. To make mistakes. To do it right the first time. The be the best. Be really successful. Try something new. Eat the best bite first. Put down a lame book. Tell yourself a better story. Ask for assistance. Do it yourself. Touch your body. Flirt. Sell your art. Share your wisdom. Charge for your services. Daydream. Be uncomfortable. Stretch. Fly. Travel. Love your family just as they are. Feel sexy. Feel your anger. To heed the calling of your soul. Buy that pair of shoes. Bargain hunt. To be seen. Create a love affair with yourself. Have a shitty day. To be raunchy. Watch movies. Love TV. Throw/give away stuff you don’t like, even if they have sentimental value. Decorate your house with beautiful things. Take care of yourself first. Curse. Be of service in the world. Use your money. Say yes to what you want and no to what you don’t. Nothing. Everything.

What you can let go of: Guilt. Shame. Fear. Other people telling you who you are. Other people telling you what to do. Anxiety about getting it right. Being perfect. Anger. Ghosts. Ridiculous stories about yourself that no longer serve you. Exhaustion. Expectations based on outdated models. Feeling better than or worse than. Negative self-talk. Judgments. The need for chaos. The need to be right. People who do not support you. Old patterns that no longer serve you. Food that makes you feel yucky. Uncomfortable clothes and shoes. Ugly underwear. The need to figure it all out.Comparisons to other folks. Your savior complex. Victim consciousness. Pressure. Self-imposed deadlines. The monkey on your back. The monsters under your bed. The house that fell on your sister. Worrying about what other people think. Stress. Shoulds. Could haves. Supposed tos. Bullshit. Horse shit. Shit of all varieties. People pleasing.

Writer’s Block

Big Sparkly Life — Mon, 10 Oct 2011 18:21:44 +0000

Photo by Mark Hillary

I hit a block this weekend. Writer’s block. The words, for too long, would not come. I tried. Some would trickle out. But when I looked at them, they were devoid of feeling. Of connection. So I would start all over again…and be back into the place of having nothing to say.

So what did I do? I cleaned my house. Went shopping. Went for dinner. Watched a movie. Listened to music. Mediated. Napped. Set intentions. Worked on other projects. I did as much as I could to bring fun and joy into my experience. Sitting around trying and failing to get words to sting together like magical fairy lights is not fun. So I made fun available to me.

I breathed. Lots. Deeply into my belly. Connected with the myself the best I could. I let words bubble up without trying to make them into something more. I got frustrated. Calmed down. And started all over again.

I also did not stop writing. I just kept going. I allowed myself to get flustered. But I turned back to page as soon as I could. I didn’t let the struggle decide anything for me. I had made a commitment to write and I wanted to keep that commitment. I wanted to be in the stuckness in service to moving out of it. In service to letting the words flow out of me…which they eventually did.

I love to write. It is an action that feels so incredibly natural. So tied to my very essence. I was not about to let a little block keep me from what I love. I created the space. Enlivened it up. And hope the magic would follow. Before long, the words came. The piece was written…and I felt like I could move walls.

Accepting Your Desires

Big Sparkly Life — Thu, 06 Oct 2011 15:48:04 +0000

Photo by Derek Gavey

What could your life look like, if you simply accepted that you wanted what you wanted? Imagine the power that would be present within you if you never once struggled against your desires. If you just accepted that you loved what you loved. That you knew it was more than ok to just want.

There would be no more struggle against the ideas of worthiness. No more should and shouldn’ts. No more trying to reign in the power of your desires. Just you, letting yourself have. You wouldn’t have to force yourself to be grateful for something that is simply not satisfying the craving you are so very aware of.

You want more money? Yes! You want more love? Yes! You want more attention, respect, creativity, alone time, togetherness, support, affection and more? YES! Yes to all of it. Yes, you want it. And yes, because you want it than you can have it. Without made up resistance to receiving it. You can create what it. You can figure out how to bring satisfaction to yourself.

Accept the very notion that you have strong, powerful desires for a life that is out in front of you. Embrace your lust. Run towards it…arms, heart and mind open to the actions of your creation. And enjoy!

The Opportunity of You

Big Sparkly Life — Mon, 03 Oct 2011 18:49:58 +0000

Photo by Joachimtraun

The opportunity of the moment…of every moment…is for you to reside fully inside of your Self. You are invited by the wonders of the universe to anchor your energies into the truth of who you are. You are invited to come inside the stillness of your being and rest gently there. To live in the absolute essence of who you are. To honor the diversity of your ways and choose to step forward in a unifying love.

The opportunity exists always. The door is held wide for you. Any day. Any time. The circumstances will present themselves. Set the intention and walk through the passage ways that will open gracefully for you.

It is not always the easy choice. It may mean being uncomfortable as you strip yourself of what had been holding you back. It may mean letting go of the old hurts that had bound you to tales of old. It may mean becoming the responsible party for your experience this and every go around.

But the rewards are immeasurable. You get to feel the magic that is so inherently you. You can create a new…every passage of every day. Your life gets to be the story that you truly want it to be. And you are free to let the love bubble over and spill out into the world you have designed.

Feel The Love

Big Sparkly Life — Fri, 30 Sep 2011 15:56:53 +0000

Feel the love. Feel it rolling towards you. Feel it caressing gently your very being. Feel the way it radiates from the heart of every soul you meet. See it beyond their words. Their moods. Their actions. See into the very essence and acknowledge the truth of their existence.

Know the love that lives inside of you. That pulses gently through your being. Anchor into it when moments feel topsy turvy. Allow it to steady and guide you through the adventures you are creating. Let it comfort the perceived hurts and wounds. Share it easily with every part of yourself…with every part of the world.

Be the emissary. The guide. The vessel for the love. Make it your job to carry it to the far reaches of your life. To the edges of the universe. Watch as it dances into people’s lives. See it transform. Love it as it loves all. Love it as it loves you.